Today marks ones year in which I met my soul mate, yes…. soul mates does exist, just like my blog is titled “Imperfectly Perfeckt” (with the ckt end purposely), love is not perfect but I can say it sure does freaking exist.
It all began 1/27/2018 at 5:21 pm, the first message I got from her on facebook after the friends request she sent me. We met through our mutual friend, .. well she was my friend in person and her friend via facebook,.. I had a really bad day and talked to my friend and told her how I felt and how I was ready to stop looking for love in all the wrong places, (I was single for two years already so for me I just wanted to give up,..and single by choice, because I am very picky when it comes to dating or just friending someone). I was really disappointed and just driving around with my daughter when all of a sudden my friend send me a pic,.
Well she literately sent me three pics of the same person,. my daughter tells me, “mom look at this”, lol it was funny because my daughter wasn’t this way with me, it was like a sign. I stopped at a red light and looked at my phone, and this is what my friend sent me.
I was like okayyyyy,… why you sending me pics of random people? She said,.. well this chic is single, lives in Florida and I have a gut feeling she is your soul mate. I was like come on Sol, how can this be? and really, I just want to be alone and keep taking time for myself, (I had spent two years single and really enjoying things I forgot I needed because I was busy depressing my life for situations really not worth it), so my friend insisted in me giving myself another try, so then and there my daughter says mom, “she is hot” and “hey, you always wanted to start again in Florida, maybe this is your time”, it really captured my thoughts and I told my friend ok, to let this chic know she can friend me.
(My birthday was on the 31st of January, so my friends and my daughter had planned a weekend get away with me in Boston, so this was basically my conversation on and off, about my birthday preparations).
So this same night as I told my friend to let her know she can friend me, she did and at around 5:21pm we began our small, nice conversations. She said, “Hi, How are you?” and I replied, “I am good and yourself”?. that small talked leaded to so much feelings that today April 29th, 2018 we are celebrating our first year Anniversary.
We kept chatting and asking questions about each other via text, voice messaging, then video, where I even met her family and she met mine. It felt as if we knew each other for years and how much we had in common. We were both Newyorkers, our parents been there since young. we were both born in the same hospital which was like too much to grasp,. so God knows who is your soul mate. My friend and her fiance were planning their wedding, so as you know She was invited and flew from Florida to Massachusetts just to meet me, then and there I realized what a special women she was,. I mean now days it is tough to fly and meet a stranger without having bad thoughts in your mind, I would… it is freaking scary, but yet she trusted and felt I was ment to be her girlfriend.
She flew to Massachusetts for three days and let me tell you, it was the best three days I have had in my 43 years of life, (I am now 44 by the way,. 🙂 ). We shared so much it was magical, she met my family, and the bond is never forgotten. It was like a movie for me, looking and seeing her bond with my kids and grand-kids, at that moment I had a pause and recorded the best moment of my life so I can treasure for ever in my mind like a computer.
During my friends wedding, as they were having their vows read to each other all I can do is stare at this women who came into my life like a thief in the night to wake and shake my soul and say, “Hey, here I am,..the one to make you happy, smile, and cry tears of joy, the one to care for you when you are sick, the one to take all the pain away, and she has done this since day one. (I will be lying to you if id say it has been perfect because it hasn’t, but what rose doesn’t have the strong stems that cut your fingers, yet you smell, love and plant them right?) well that is love, perfectly imperfect.
It was time for her to leave back to Florida, not before I put a ring on her, I felt so much passion and love for her I wanted her to stay, but obligations had to be done.
All I need to say is Love does exist people, stop giving up on yourself and being hard on yourself, let love life and let love find you, because this woman found me, I didn’t even know about her existence but she knew about me and never gave up. Marriage isn’t perfect but when Love is there you can over come anything and everything, I promise this I am saying is true. Everyday I look at this woman and I fall in Love with her, I love sharing my days and nights, we do everything together and I mean everything, from waking up, to eating, watching movies and hanging out. We are each others friend, we have each others back, whether we are right or wrong, no one cant gt in between us because we defend each other like glue.
Love is involuntary. Brain science tells us it’s a drive like thirst. It’s a craving for a specific person. It’s normal, natural to “lose control” in the early stage of romance. Love, like thirst, will make you do strange things, But knowledge is power. It’s a natural addiction and treating it like an addiction can help you.
We were built to fall in love. Are YOU in love?
The ancient Greeks called love “the madness of the gods.” Modern psychologists define it as it the strong desire for emotional union with another person. But what, actually, is love. It means so many different things to different people. Songwriters have described it, “Whenever you’re near, I hear a symphony.” Shakespeare said, “Love is blind and lovers cannot see.” Aristotle said, “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
Love happily and let Love find you.
Always Jessica (Imperfectly Imperfeckt ME)
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